Archive for 2008

Self-awareness is the Key to a Successful Career Move

December 1st, 2008
Highlights         
  • Knowing
    yourself well is essential to making good career change decisions.
  • High
    self-awareness results in higher self-confidence, and better job matches.
  • Self-awareness
    is built through self-reflection, assessments and feedback.

The climate of economic uncertainty is bringing
sudden changes in many organizations resulting in redeployments and layoffs, and creating new opportunities for career advancement. Now is the time to be ready to make decisions about your future by investing in one of the most important career faculties: self
awareness.
 

Self-awareness means knowing and accepting your strengths,
weaknesses and preferences. It takes a certain detachment to be truly honest
about what kind of person you are. People are often overly modest about their
strengths, or they take them for granted thinking that everyone has them.
People often either deny their weaknesses or constantly focus on fixing them. The
most success people fully accept their strengths and weaknesses and find
situations that allow them to be at their best.
 

When you fully understand your own personality, you can change
jobs more easily for two reasons: you will know exactly what kind of job suits
you and you can more accurately and confidently describe yourself to hirers. 

A job search is much easier when you know exactly what you
are looking for. You can clearly describe the job you want to your contacts and
supporters so that they can refer opportunities. 

And once you’ve found the opportunities, you can apply and
interview for jobs much more confidently. When your personality and the job fit
well, you can focus on being yourself instead of trying to be someone you are
not. Recruiters and potential employers can  sense the underlying confidence of self-aware
people. Even if the job you are applying for is not for you, recruiters will
feel more confident in referring you to other jobs, since they sense that you
represent yourself honestly and accurately.
 

When you already know about your weaknesses, have accepted
them and understand how they contribute to the strength of your overall
personality, no one can discourage you with slights about your faults. When you
know yourself well, you are also more likely to be successful in your job.
Research has shown managers and leaders who know themselves better are more
successful.
 

Building self-awareness is a continuing process that lasts a
lifetime. Even though you may know yourself well at age 20, you will need to
explore yourself again and again as your personality develops based on the
challenges you meet in life.
 

There are three primary strategies for increasing your self
awareness. The first one is self-reflection. Take some time to write down what
you think about yourself, what you like and dislike and what you want and need.
The free e-course that I offer provides some support for this step. Rather
than keeping thoughts about yourself in your head, put them on paper. If you
are the creative type, you can draw, paint or create pictures, maps or metaphors
of yourself. Metaphors are an excellent way to represent the immense complexity
of a personality.
 

Another way to know yourself better is through assessments.
There are hundreds of simple, free online assessments that let you play with
ideas about what kind of person you are. Better still, many of the assessments
used for hiring, staff development and team building can give a very accurate
portrayal of who you are. The better you know yourself already, the more
sophisticated the tool you will need to shed more light. Look for assessments
to help you clarify your work-related tendencies as most relevant for
clarifying your optimum career path. The assessments I recommend are
ideal for understanding what role is ideal for you.
 

A third valuable way to understand yourself is through
feedback from others. No matter how hard you look, you can never see yourself
through another person’s eyes. Information on how you come across is an
invaluable source of insight. Ask your close friends and co-workers for an
honest assessment of your biggest strengths and worst weaknesses. Solicit
specific examples so you can understand how they came to that impression. Make
the most of your annual performance appraisals or other formal feedback
mechanisms. To encourage others to be honest and open, offer to give them
feedback in return.
 

None of us knows when sudden changes may force us to move to
a new job. Now is always the right time to strengthen the foundations that will
allow you to make smooth and successful career changes.

4 principles for work fulfillment in times of crisis

October 28th, 2008

I’m amazed by the worldwide changes in the financial system and the economy that are unfolding before us. New worldwide systems are demanded, and emerging. Many of us will be facing new work pressures as a result. So here’s a reminder of the principles behind finding fulfillment in life through work. I hope this is useful to you.

1. Welcome reality.

Whenever you feel frustrated, angry, upset, depressed, or any other negative emotion, you are resisting the truth. If the truth is that you just dropped a bundle in an investment, or you just lost your job, accept it. And then step back one pace further to realize that somehow, it’s for the best. The current reality may be uncomfortable and challenging, but it really is better somehow in the biggest sense of the idea. It may cause you some pain, but if you choose to look for it, you’ll find a much bigger advantage in store for you in the long run. Opportunities abound in times of change.

2. Know yourself.

When you know what kind of person you are, you can add value in the most efficient ways possible. If you’re in a role that doesn’t suit you, you’ll end up burned out or fired, particularly when budgets tighten and workplace demands increase. Workplace roles are constantly changing, so you need to keep rediscovering how well you fit your work, what kind of support you need to be at your best and how you can use your special strengths to best advantage. Know yourself and then act as the guardian and champion of your unique value.
 
3. Foster relationships.

The quality of the relationships you form throughout your career are a handy measure of your quality and value as a person. I don’t mean that someone with few relationships is not valuable, only that they may not be seen as valuable. A personal recommendation is worth far more than a credential. The relationships you have nurtured over many years, including personal, collegial and vocational relationships, can provide you with inside information, referrals, feedback and moral support in times of change. Foster a wide variety of relationship with quality people through small investments in connection over long periods of time.

4. Remember that you’re here to serve.

It is humbling to realize that your knowledge, skills and talents have no value on their own. They are only worth something when they are put into service for someone else. While it’s tempting to think about what you want to do with your work life, it is more effective to think about what you can do for others. The perspective of being in service allows you to see how you are most useful to the people who will pay you, whether as employers, customers or clients. Put your highest value talents, that is the skills that fulfill you, into the service of others and you will maximize your success.

Large Hadron Rap

September 19th, 2008

I can't resist sharing this hilarious video which will also help you understand the latest scientific investigations into the nature of the universe. I highly recommend the Large Hadron Rap.

How to be an Enlightened Leader

September 19th, 2008


I’d like to be able to explain fully and clearly how to be
an ‘enlightened leader’ (!!), but since I am only just discovering this
possibility myself, I am only going to share what I’m learning these days as I
explore leadership and spirituality. Please feel free to add to my
understanding by commenting.
 

Enlightenment means a view of the universe that is beyond
ego. It is the highest known perspective.

What does it mean to
be beyond ego?
 

First of all, ego is the sense that we are separate. It
emerges in childhood when we discover that we are separate from our
environments, our families and that we have individual identities. For the
first time we realize that we have an exclusive view of our own thoughts and
that we have the ability to think and choose for ourselves. Before we discover
our egos, we are not really aware that we are separate at all. Babies have no
concept of themselves and no conscious control.
 

The development of the ego is behind humankind’s great rush
of progress and development as we each strive to protect ourselves and compete
against others in our relentless pursuit of happiness. In this sense it is a
good thing. But the ego’s view of reality is not complete.
 

Being ‘beyond ego’ means having a higher perspective that transcends
the petty demands of the ego for attention, importance and security. The ego is
fearful and greedy. The ego pretends to be rational in its striving for
self-protection, but in fact it is emotional and manipulative. Enlightenment is
a more complete view of reality.
 

To gain an experience and understanding of the true nature
of reality, we can explore the deepest levels of our consciousness through
meditation. It is possible to discover that consciousness is composed of two
great forces: 
 

  • Peace
    and acceptance, where everything is okay.
  • The
    creative impulse, where everything must change.

Clearly these are opposites, and yet they both exist
simultaneously and with equal power. We can also see them as two aspects of the
same field.
 

So to be enlightened means to be aware of and act in
accordance with the existence of the highest and deepest levels of
consciousness. 


How would having this
highest possible perspective help you as a leader?

 

The biggest enemy of leadership success is fear. Fear blocks
us from rationally considering our actions and thereby leads us into
self-destructive and ill-considered behaviours. Fear also stops us from taking
any action at all, as we fearfully cling to the status quo rather than
venturing into the infinite possibilities for improvement. Fear is resolved by
knowing that at the heart of any problem, everything is okay and there is no
need for fear. There is only peace.
 

Once we are free from the fears and desires of the ego, we
are able to tap into the creative impulse that nurtures change and development,
and is the force behind the creation of “predictable miracles”, as I wrote
about before.

Applying the
learning:
 

The most important step in becoming an enlightened leader is
to raise your awareness of the higher levels of consciousness beyond ego so
that you can avoid the pitfalls of ego’s irrational urges and thereby access
the higher intelligence of the creative impulse. 

This may sound esoteric but it is actually very practical.
The more you realize that ‘everything is okay’, there is always peace, the more
your actions towards your goals will be in alignment with the highest causes
and the most efficient connections. Remember, money is not earned through work,
but through the creation of value.
 

Here is a practical example. Although I have many
outstanding goals to achieve and responsibilities to fulfill, and limited time
to complete these things, I decided to take a 5-day holiday. I am aware that
much of my drive to complete goals comes from my ego’s desire to look good in
front of others, and to feel important. Those are ego-driven desires that are
unrelated to my deeper desires for helping others develop, leading and
creating. Since I am aware in this case that it is the ego that desires to keep
working, I can safely ignore it.

And so, I have just returned from my holiday fully
refreshed, energized, positive and ready to attract the kind of connections and
opportunities I really want, rather than only those that create plenty of work
without the value I seek. I cannot prove that I would have created more success
by working for those five days, but I am absolutely sure that this particular
vacation has added to my bottom line.
 

Conclusion: 

In life, everything is okay and at the same time everything
must change. The more a leader understands and experiences these two forces in
every day life, the more easily he or she will find fulfillment and success.
 
 
 

Get instant coaching results, by focusing on what the client wants

July 28th, 2008

Focusing on exactly what the coachee wants is a powerful tool that can lead to instant coaching results. Obviously, the whole paradigm of modern coaching means focusing on what the client wants. But I'm talking about focusing more deeply on what they really want, not just what they tell you they want. By focusing the conversation in this way, you not only honour your coachee's goals and needs, but you can also find ways to meet those real but often unspoken goals much more easily.

Here's an example of how this works. My coachee Anne is frustrated by the lack of structure and guidelines in her company. She feels frustrated that a lot of her efforts are wasted because the system is not in place to properly implement the programs she is developing. She believes that the way the company is doing things is wrong and wasteful.

What does Anne want? One view is that she wants the company to change the way it does things. Further exploration of this possibility reveals that this kind of change would take a lot of thought, time and effort.

Another view of what Anne wants is that she wants to stop feeling frustrated. Perhaps she wants to feel like her efforts are of value and are being used for the best possible result.

I asked Anne what stops the company from creating the kinds of structures she believes are necessary. Anne explains that her company is young and growing. The senior managers probably understand the value of what she wants, but it is not their priority right now. I can see a change in Anne's demeanor as she reveals this. So I say, “It looks like that's an important point you've just made.”

Anne said, “Yes, I realize that it's not realistic to expect the company to act like a fully mature company when it is so new. The work I do at this stage is valuable, but it is impossible to be as fully implemented as it would be in a more mature company.” Anne's energy had changed completely. She seemed relaxed as she accepted the reality of the situation.

I took the opportunity to strengthen her feelings of acceptance by offering a metaphor. I said, “Your company is still a baby! So no wonder it doesn't do everything perfectly yet.”

Anne laughed! Her frustration was gone. Nothing concrete had changed, but because she had changed her thinking, the 'problem' was gone.

If I were Anne's manager, I would be very happy to have instantly gained her understanding and support for the current needs of the company. How many good staff have quit their jobs in frustration over a similar problem that can be resolved with a 10 minute coaching conversation? And for Anne, she can be much more effective by aligning her efforts with the current needs of the company rather than wishing it were different and struggling to create structures that are too far ahead of their time.

Here's a summary of the keys to success for this coaching interaction.
1) As always, let the coachee do most of the talking.
2) Listen for what's behind the words. Notice what the coachee wants, versus what she says she wants.
3) Watch for changes in tone and body language that signify a change in thinking.
4) Focus on what will help the coachee feel better, rather than just solving the practical problem.
5) Help the coachee notice and articulate the change in thinking and emotions.

This is only one example of the value of focusing on what the coachee wants. Do you have others you can share here?

The most elegant path to effective leadership

May 29th, 2008

I've been on a learning spurt in the past few months around the most effective ways to influence people, to lead, and to have my life proceed according to my highest desires. And what I'm learning is a way of operating that is much more effective than the conventional wisdom.

Fitting perfectly into that learning, I happened upon a very inspiring book called Synchronicity, the Inner Path of Leadership, by Joseph Jaworski.

The book affirms that leadership is about collectively creating the future and that the most effective way to lead is to use synchronicity, meaning to create the conditions for “predictable miracles”.

I'm sure you can think of a time when a happy accident led you to progress in an unexpected way. A common example is a coincidental meeting with someone who can forward your goals. Another example is when your eyes catch sight of a book that perfectly meets your needs (just as happened for me with this book!) For me, some of the most influential connections I've made in the past few years have happened purely by accident.

The book is both a personal story and an attempt to describe how to lead using synchronicity. Here are my notes.

  1. The most important choice a leader makes is to serve. Without choosing to serve your followers and/or society, your capacity to lead is profoundly limited.
  2. Want the result for its own sake. That means you must avoid egoic attachments to the results such as wanting to prove yourself as a leader, wanting to beat the competition etc. For the example above, you would want the profit simply for the benefits that will accrue to the company and your team.
  3. Be committed; believe it is possible; use willingness not will. You must simultaneously  be committed to success while being open to allowing the process to unfold in the easiest possible way.  This reminds me of Deepak Chopra's 4th Law of Success: The Law of Least Effort. Lao Tzu has said that “An integral being…accomplishes without doing.”
  4. Attract what and who you want through authentic presence and love. When you generate an internal feeling of unconditional love, others are influenced by it, whether they know it or not.
  5. The ability to create the conditions for synchronicity is not special. It's available to everyone.

If I've really learned these lessons this time, my life should begin flowing with great ease. And yours too. So, let's see!

Evening Workshop on How to Love Your Work

May 29th, 2008

If you'd like to enjoy your work life more, or if you're thinking of
changes, here's another chance to meet with some like-minded souls to make a fresh start on improving your career. Carole Lewis and I will be guiding a small group on June 16th on how to Love Your Work in 5 Steps!
See www.GettingWorkYouLove.com for all the details.

You can also sign-up there for our revised and improved free e-course.

“This workshop gave me some
new perspectives and the increased motivation to make changes that I knew I
needed to make.”


–Lorna Robertson,
Teacher,
Hong Kong

Calm Control Personal Productivity Workshop

May 29th, 2008

Kristin Lowe, the Managing Director of Organising Solutions, is not only the most organized person I know, she is a font of knowledge on the subject. You should see her book collection. I didn't know there were modern encyclopedias on organizing. She is also totally passionate about helping people reduce stress and regain control of their time.

In June she's running a two-morning workshop, The Calm Control™ Personal Productivity Workshop that will help you:

  • Reclaim time lost searching for buried information by creating a comprehensive workflow management system
  • Improve your decision-making speed and eliminate inefficiencies caused by information overload
  • Increase your capacity to manage multiple tasks, projects and ever-changing priorities
  • Enhance your ability to identify and remain focused on the most profitable activities

The workshop is suitable for working people, managers considering offering an in-house version, or household 'CEOs'.

Dates

Part 1 – Tuesday 24 June, 9:30-12:45

Part 2 – Wednesday 25 June, 9:30-12:45

Click here for more information and to get your special price. Registration closes on June 16.

Talking about the International Association of Coaching

May 29th, 2008

I was interviewed for the Coachville Caffeine daily online radio show about:
- how I became a coach and then the President of the IAC
- what the IAC is all about
- my big dream for the world and for the IAC

You can listen here. My part is just over 30 minutes long.

At 27:45 I talk about my big dream for the IAC and the world: “It's about how coaching influences people and how coaching brings people forward, which is so important for our world at this point. …”

How to feel blissful, without losing your mind

April 21st, 2008

Have you seen that film going around about the neurologist who had a stroke? Jill Bolte Taylor vividly describes her experiences as her left brain gradually stops working. See it here.

It's amazing and inspiring. The experiences she has when her left, logical, language-using, linear brain fails are like spiritual experiences. She feels expansive, connected and at one with everything in the universe. She feels incredible bliss as she revels in the present moment.

She is so moved by these experiences that she is motivated to share them with the world for one primary purpose: so that all of us can also experience that blissful place that is available to us all through the perception of our right brains.

Afterall, she realizes that the way the right brain sees the world is just as
valid as the left brain's perspective. Both viewpoints are required to
have a full experience of life. And yet most of us are completely immersed in the left brain's practical view of past and future, specifics, and separation. That right brain perspective is just what the world needs more of now, in order to fully understand how we are all inter-connected, inter-dependent and safe.

Her description of this other way of viewing the world is certainly inspiring. But she gives very little insight into how to actually do this …short of having a stroke ourselves which I'm sure she does NOT recommend.

So how do you reduce the activity of your left brain so that you can benefit from the holistic perspective of your right brain?

Of course, meditation is one proven way and the benefits are well-documented. I highly recommend it. But nonetheless it is difficult for busy people to find time to be completely quiet and undisturbed in order to meditate.

So I recommend instead another simple trick you can do in any spare moments when you are walking around, traveling or briefly at rest. This method comes from yoga and is also explained in Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP).

Start with 'soft eyes'. In other words, look at an object and soften your focus so that your gaze is broader. You will be able to see things far to both sides of your field of vision without moving your eyes or your head. Next, practice shifting your attention from the object in the centre, to the periphery of your vision. Notice that you can shift your attention back and forth, from the centre, to the periphery, without moving your eyes at all. You can even shift your attention to areas that you cannot see. Can you evenly distribute your attention to all directions around you?

As you practice this, notice how it feels. You may feel that the quality of your attention is very different when it is spread out around you than when it is focused, as in our usual every-day experiences. Can you feel the difference? That is the right side of your brain.

Studies in NLP have shown that the eyes and the mind are interconnected so that eye movements can be used to predict and control mind activities. So use your eyes to help you broaden your focus. Practice broadening your attention. You will learn new ways to see the world. You will feel bliss.